Monday, December 30, 2013

Reporting on the Eve of New Year's Eve

So it has come to this.

After back-to-back parties and weddings since 25 December, I finally got sick literally one hour before I had not one-but TWO EVENTS to go to in one night! And I really, really, really, really wanted to go see Racheal's OTT Martha Stewart Christmas deco too *crashing thunder, watery eyes, endless despair*

So on the night of 29th of December 2013, I was bundled up on the sofa with a hot water bottle and my two poodles while my darling husband casually made a bowl of hot oats for himself --- as opposed to the 9-course Chinese cuisine or mouth-watering buffet he could have been spending 29 December 2013 at. In one month's time, we will be celebrating our blessed one-year wedding anniversary and he is still my favourite Christmas present of all time.

You guys, maybe becoming an adult isn't all it's cracked up to be. I think I liked it better when Christmas time meant just wearing whatever you want, eating turkey at home, decorating an overly large Christmas tree and opening up dozens of presents; as opposed to Christmas time this year which is filled with office obligations and Serious Adult Events (except Racheal's party, which was ironically the onnnnnnnly Christmas party I wanted to go to) ahem, Ah! But enough complaining!

Today's Public Service Announcement: Please remember to drink plenty of water during your holiday! Au Revoir, 2013! You have been (mostly) good to us!

So I'm going to clean up a little and crawl back into bed now. More reporting in 2014!

Tuesday, December 24, 2013

christmas eve plans

I'm working hard on Christmas Eve! One of the drawbacks to working from home is that while you can start work any time you want... you can't stop till you finish yo! Meanwhile... everyone else is on holiday mode!

Spent an afternoon at Jiin's yesterday. I was under the impression that we'd just have a mini baking session and have some girlie talk, but it somehow turned into a booze-cocktail fest with enough cookies to feed ourselves, our family, our colleagues and the poor.

It's goofy when it's all girls 

Just. look. at it!!! 

I didn't help bake though, because I was busy working in the morning (shy) but that's the nice thing about hanging out at your best friend's place - you can eat all the food and sleep on the sofa without any worries, nyahahaha. \(^_^)/

This just makes me look cool, as if I can hold my liquor 

But in reality I only had one cocktail out of six/seven they made... progress is progress, right? Right. 

It was raining, so we couldn't wear our bikinis and hang out by the pool. Replaced it with XXX-talk! Do you need some tips? Kiss while wearing menthol lip balm and  tug on his torso for something magical to happen. We found this in the COSMO! magazine! 

I don't think the pleasure map is correct, though? 

Fabulous rosemary chicken by the host!

I tried to run away without collecting a cookie bag, because I don't want to get fat over cookies. =,= but in the end Geri felt guilty about baking and running, so we took the elevator back up to Jiin's floor, and she was just STANDING THERE while the elevator doors open, ready to kill us for baking and running (allegedly). 

Dinner vegetables 

Dinner cocktail 

December is seriously the month of food and holidays! Even though we don't have much decorations this year, I think that as long as I get to have lots of funs with my Wewo, friends and dogs, then I am pretty lucky. Let's  be thankful this year and end 2013 with style! 

P/S - Cindy told me about her friends reading my Hen's Night blog and thanking me for the info. It made me shy but happy at the same time! Thank you for taking the time to thank me! The truth is that actually no one except Wewo knows that I blog... hahaha so it's surreal when I get people talking to me about my blog! Anyway, I will work hard and blog better next year! *deep bow* 

Friday, December 20, 2013

My Skincare Secret: How-to own Smooth, Blemish-free and Radiant Skin

Everybody! I had dinner by myself today for the first time in a very long time. Ah, so this is what being married is like... well, what I mean to say is that a few years ago, eating a meal on my own would be no big deal since I had a crazy work schedule but since getting married, I've become used to having someone handsome to eat with and talk with everyday. Tonight, I had an Americano and hot lasagne at a French cafe nearby while reading my manga. It was very nice, but it struck me how awkward and shy I felt to be eating alone. Hehe I am such a weird 누나!

Anyway, Wewo was at home all day and only went out for a bachelor's night, so I really have no reason to miss him suddenly, except that I do. I feel that Christmas this year is the loneliest ever, even though it's the first time I'm celebrating it as a Mrs.

For the past ten years, Christmas meant wrapping up SOOOO many presents because I come from a pretty big family. This year, we don't even have a Christmas tree up in the studio and our only Christmas present is Cheffie, the toy poodle who is already running around our home as though she owns the place. Cheffie is such a weird little bad ass. We brought her to the vet for a vaccination today and the doctor stuck a needle up her furry butt. She didn't even flinch and just sat prim and proper on the steel table, cool like a cucumber. (=____=) What kind of dog is this???!!!

Next year will be interesting when we move into our own home because then I'll get to put up a Christmas tree and make sure that there'll be lots of presents under it! Yeah, let's work hard, everybody!

My Christmas present to the Internet this year is sharing my secret on how I have great skin:

No make up skin, just some lipstick 

No photoshop 

This puffy sleepy face is almost 3-0 years old yo *shy* 

Mint Julep Masque: I only put this on rare days when I have a pimple. Apply this directly on the pimple, wait 20 minutes and wash it off. The pimple will be (almost) gone! This masque is cheap overseas and I purchased it on Low Yat Forum for around RM12-15 per tube. I bought 20, so it should last me for a few years. 

Charcoal Mask from DAISO: I get blackheads and whiteheads a lot (I think we all do) due to the humid weather in Malaysia. This mask works best after a hot shower. It's only a temporary solution, though but it's good to use if your blackhead/whitehead situation is really noticeable! Only RM5.

Cure Natural Aqua Gel: You are supposed to wash your face, pat it dry then massage this solution all over your face and gently rub. It will remove any hidden dirt/build up in your skin. This is especially refreshing if you tend to put on a lot of foundation/cream on your face. If you apply this once a week, you can also keep blackheads and whiteheads at bay! I can't remember how much it was, but it was pricey, like around RM200+. 

Facial masks: You can make your own facial masks from the kitchen or you can buy cheap/expensive ones from Guardian or WATSON'S. Facial masks are very important! If you're like me and don't have time to wear facial masks, you can use it when your husband is fast asleep at night. On days when Wewo goes to sleep earlier, I like to take a nice hot shower, put on my PJs, wear my facial mask and then hop into bed. Wearing your facial mask won't dry out your skin and according to 2NE1TV, Sandara Park and Park Bom also wear facial masks to sleep without any beauty detriments. Facial masks let you wake up to shiny skin! Ideally, you should wear cloth facial masks everyday for supple skin. 


1. I don't use Toners. I own some, but ... what are they for? My skin is fine without toners. 

2. Eye cream is essential, twice a day.

3. On days when my skin feels very dry in the morning, I do not wash it. Instead, I wipe it down with makeup wipes. 

4. I try not to wear make up every day.

5. I currently use Laneige for my skincare, but I always switch the brands up and my skin is fine. 

6. If you can afford it, you should definitely go for facial sessions once a month. I used to go to Bluunis and they did a good job on my skin, but I stopped shortly after because they kept trying to sell me stuff. I don't have time for facial sessions anymore these days. *sad* 

OK, that's all! Merry Christmas! 

Remember Poppy? Poppy says hi! 

I'll show you her Louis Vuitton inspired bow next time! 

Santarina Pam 

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Wedding Gate Crashing / Heng Tai Games 2013

Warning: This post contains pictures of snakes, beetles and other disgusting creatures which I've shrunk to make it look less scary! 

So here are some funny games that aren't too over-the-top/demeaning and is memorable enough to photograph and videotape for memories:

1. Ask all the groomsmen to squeeze themselves into one car in 30 seconds. The smaller the car, the funnier.

2. The groomsmen must piggyback each other and walk across a reflexology path to get to the house.

3. Go to the Chinese traditional shop and purchase dried snake and lizards. The sensei will advise you on how to boil the dried snake/lizard along with red dates to create a delicious drink that is actually good for the skin. Boil the soup and place it in a clear container. All the groomsmen must drink the juice with a large bubble tea straw until it's completely finished.

Note: This drink only looks scary but actually tastes sweet. Great for photography!

4. Bug jelly for punishment or failure to complete any tasks (insects can also be purchased from Chinese traditional shops). The insects are 100% edible! All you need to do is pour instant jelly liquid on the bugs in an ice-cube tray and let it set.

Note: According to the groomsmen, this tastes really bad because the insect legs get stuck in between your teeth. But it looks so awesome  on camera, right?!

5. Picture frame task Runningman style: Setup a large picture frame and camera on tripod. The groomsmen must start the camera timer and strike a pose. Everyone must successfully appear in the camera shot holding the pose when the shutter goes off, with the groom in the middle. You may consider adding costume props as well.

Note: To make it funnier, the bridesmaids should secretly select the camera timer without letting the groomsmen know when the shot will be taken (5sec,10sec,30sec, etc)

6. Alternatively, groomsmen must copy yoga/panda poses and hold for 1 minute: 

Alternatively, you could also get the groomsmen to copy the stacked panda pose:

7. Freeze the key (or many keys) to the house in a block of ice cubes and get the groomsmen to figure out how to extract said key.

8. Play the limbo rock

9. A must-have game is the sweet, sour, spicy and bittersweet tasting session where the groom and his men must literally swallow an item that is sweet, sour, spicy and bittersweet. You can get bitter powder from the Chinese traditional medicine shop, condensed milk can be the sweetness, apple cider vinegar represents sourness and red chilli is a good representation of spiciness.

10. The final challenge should be the Q&A session especially for the groom! Some of the best questions I've heard are:
- Name all the bridesmaids
- Say something about the bride using the words sweet, sour, spicy and bittersweet
- How many moles does the bride have on her body?
- What is the last word the bride said to you yesterday night?

Advise for the groomsmen and groom

Don't just come with balls and money, come with flowers! A groom raised the bar by purchasing 24-stalked roses for each of the bridesmaids. Some of us were so shy that we kept trying to avoid being given the flowers (including me).

Every bridesmaid had one!!! 

The presentation looked really beautiful on camera and it reflects well on the groom. If you're worried about the costing issue, plan in advance and see if you can get the flowers from Cameron Highlands, or choose another flower that's cheaper than roses. I loved the flowers so much that I kept it well in the living room for one week! 

Come in style. Instead of ribbons and wedding teddy bears, these groomsmen arrived with war flags, ready to do epic battle so that one of their own could marry a bombshell for a wife. 

OK, that's all. Brides, don't forget to discuss ang pow money collection with your husband also! Most weddings collect one red packet at the main door and one more before letting the groom in to see the bride.

Have fun! xoxo Santarina Pam

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Dear Bridesmaids: How to be the Best Bridesmaid Ever

Look! I'm hiding my morning just-woke-up-face behind a cool Bridesmaid t-shirt! The bride's brother had a custom shirt made for all the bridesmaids which included our name and... they actually took the time to count out the number of friendship years for each of us! Mine is 17! I've known Cindy for 17 years!!! (Which is impossible, since I am only 18 years old now, ahem). Of course, the best part about being a bridesmaid/ji mui in Malaysia is still the cash payout at the end of the day. Ahem ahem. And the free bridesmaid dress which is always so fun to twirl around in! If I had my way, I'd wear pretty dresses everyday!

I feel guilty because I never collect Wedding Cards. I usually chuck them out after the wedding event has passed. *guilty* Can you spot my wedding card? I can't believe she kept it so well!!! 

OK OK so here are some things that I have learned over the past two months as a bridesmaid: 

1. Don't be an asshole. If you're sitting around the house/venue with nothing to do, then get off your butt and get something done. It's OK if you couldn't make it for the bridesmaid briefing, but it's not OK to talk about your boob size/work/boyfriend drama while everyone else is scurrying to get ready for the wedding. If you don't know what's going on, it's your fault so take some responsibility! No one cares if you're best friends with the bride since you were born. 

2. It's fine if you don't know any of the other bridesmaids, but you should at least know what the Maid of Honor/Heads Bridesmaid looks like. If there is no leader in the group, get the bride to elect the go-to person in case you have an issue you would like to get straightened out. Sometimes, you need to be the leader, too. I've been a bridesmaid at one wedding event where things were not ready yet 30 minutes before it was supposed to begin! So I just sat everyone down and had a flash meeting. A girl has to do what a girl has to do, especially if her best friend's happiness is on the line. 

3. Don't ask if anyone needs help because 99% of the time, the wedding family members will be too polite to ask you to help. Help anyway, unless the bride explicitly tells you to just sit still and be pretty. 

4. No form of criticism or constructive advice is needed on your best friend's wedding day, thanks. For a few hours in that day, your one and only job is to make sure the bride looks fabulous and always has everything she needs on hand, be it eyelash glue, a drink of water or even a piece of paper. You don't ask or suggest - you get it done pronto. 

5. Get to the wedding venue early and be one of the last few to leave. Even if the rest of the wedding crew has everything handled, they always need extra pair of hands to double check that no money/jewellery/shoe is left behind after the wedding (when most people would be drunk silly). 

6. Befriend the photographer and videographer. These people are trained to take customary wedding shots of shoes, wedding cakes and rings, so it will be extra sweet if you point out pranks or special surprises on the wedding day so that the camera can capture it on film. The bride will be super happy about this! 

7. Apply really, really good make up and keep lipstick, compact mirror plus wet tissue in your bag in case of emergency. Don't be one of those bridesmaids who are busy touching up their face power and lipgloss while you keep the bride waiting! Get your makeup done properly early in the day so you can run around doing errands while looking cute.

8. Try to keep your schedule as clear as possible the day before and after the wedding day. This is so you can help in case of any last-minute emergency wedding activities before the wedding day, and the day after the wedding is meant for you to sit back, relax and enjoy a relaxing facial mask moment while listening to your favourite songs at home. Weddings are exhausting for the entire wedding team, but it sure is worthwhile! 

9. SMILE, always. Unless this is a goth wedding, you better make sure you walk down the wedding aisle with plenty of grace and sweet happiness. I don't understand why some bridesmaids look like they're attending a funeral as they walk down during the wedding procession. It doesn't make you look hot, you just look ugly and bitter, honey. Why on earth would you want to do that? :( 

10. Always check that you can wear your bridesmaid dress ONE MONTH before the wedding day. One of last month's wedding nearly ended up in a disaster because only 2 of the 8 bridesmaids could fit in their dresses. By then, the dresses were sold out and the bride had to waste extra time looking for dresses of similar colour. Don't be that asshole who can't be bothered to try on a dress in advance. Seriously. 

11. Is she hungry? Does she need to pee? Is she thirsty? These are things you need to be obsessed about, especially if the bride has to go through hours of photography and ceremony on the wedding day. If you're feeling shy about standing around while holding a plateful of food for the bride, gently cover the food with a piece of serviette, but a better idea would be to just hand feed the bride when no one is looking. This is especially true for Chinese weddings which start from 6am all the way till 3pm. The bride will definitely get thirsty midway! 

12. Check your ego at the doorstep, please. Bridesmaids are important to the success of a wedding, but they are basically pretty wallflowers to everyone else. Be super nice to everyone and do your utmost best to create a fun environment for everyone - there'll be plenty of time for eye-rolling and stories to talk about over alcoholic drinks after the wedding. ;) 

Q&A: But Pam, what if the other bridesmaids are not doing anything? 
Answer: Let them be! It's not your job to start any drama. Your job is to get the job done and any attempts of backstabbing, gossiping, etc. will not be useful to the wedding. 

Q&A: But I'm so used to being the life of the party! How could I possibly be just another boring bridesmaid?
Answer: If you want to be overly flashy, then you are simply not prepared to be a good bridesmaid. Just blame the problem on your DNA and tactfully reject the invitation to be a bridesmaid. Then you can attend the wedding as a regular fabulous guest and wear as many sequins and fake eyelashes as you like - without jeopardising your friendship with the bride and earning a bucketload of karma payback. 

So basically, the key to being a good bridesmaid is to not be so self-centred on that day. It's about celebrating the love between two people who are important to you, so make sure you do a good job if you're going to take up the responsibility! 

Next: Gatecrashing/Ji Mui-Heng Tai Wedding Games Idea! 

Yes, this wedding had 30 groomsmen/heng tai. 

Monday, December 16, 2013

Our new family member - Cheffie la Peppe

So last Monday, Wewo decided to treat himself to a whole carton of Korean beer. Somehow or another, we ended up bringing home a brand new poodle named Cheffie la Peppe. Tah dah! She's a mini toy poodle.

Beer = New Poodle + Beer in our house, hahahahahahahah mwahahahah bwahahahahahah \(^_^)/

Cheffie and Poppy - two female poodles learning how to play and share 

Wewo supervising Cheffie 

Cheffie - white paws for socks, a white apron, white moustache and lightened eyebrows. What kind of poodle is she???!!! 

Cheffie, who gave up climbing up the table halfway 

Cheffie, serious document controller 

Cheffie - now comes in (almost) mini iPad size 

Look at how pretty her fur is!!! 


Pam, Poppy and Cheffie watching Boardwalk Empire at 11pm last Saturday. 

So pretty.

Oscar had a rough Saturday night because we decided to feed all the dogs Bailey's Irish Cream. 

Why Did You Get Another Dog? 

I've never seen a dual-colored mini poodle before, especially one who is as serious as Cheffie. When we met her, she wasn't wagging her tail and she didn't wear the happy, goofy smile most puppies seem to be born with. She was so SERIOUS and we figured that every family needs a serious member so ours might as well be a poodle. 

Two days later, Cheffie's tail faintly twitched in excitement/happiness and we were SO HAPPY, I think my heart grew a little bigger to fit her in it. 

Why Cheffie?

She has white paws and a white front, which looks like a mitten and apron. So Mr. Wewo decided that this dog is a Chef - hence, Cheffie. He also decided that she is a French girl. For a Frenchie though, she sure does eat a lot. 

Is it a good idea to have 3 dogs at home? Isn't it too much?

Oscar the 7 year old shih tzu is pretty self-sufficient and just chills all day. Poppy the 1 year old is hyper, but she is toilet trained so getting another tiny dog didn't seem like much of an issue. There are days that I have to mop the floor twice though and training a 4-month old puppy takes much more time (compared to Poppy, who toilet-trained herself in one day). Anyway, we are pretty happy with Cheffie. She's adorable and keeps Poppy company. No more feeling guilty about leaving home for long hours at a time! 

How to buy a dog in Malaysia

1. Check the vaccination card 
2. Get your puppy checked at your local vet to be sure that he/she is 100% healthy
3. Always ask for a discount
4. Never purchase a sleeping dog because while they may look cute and calm in their sleep, they can get pretty rowdy and hyper when they're awake. Make sure that the dog's true temperament suits yours. 
5. Get a chew toy for puppies because their teeth are always itchy. 
6. Before making your purchase, make sure you understand the full amount of what you're paying. Besides the dog, you might also need a doggie bed, absorbent pads for peeing, toys, food, shampoo, collar, leash and food bowl. 
7. Never name the dog first if you're not sure if you want a new pet! Wewo made the mistake of naming the Cheffie the first time he saw her, and that's why we went back and got her two days later. 

P/s - Oh yes, we also bought the Korean beer home!

Monday, December 9, 2013

backstreet's back, alright!

So a few months ago, I thought it would be a good idea to execute a surprise birthday party, spend 3 days in Melaka, 4 days in Hong Kong and then have a girlie sleepover the night before helping out at a big, big Chinese wedding. 

I've been back in KL for a little over 100 hours and I am still crazy exhausted... and it's only Monday! 

Also, we are seriously, seriously, SERIOUSLY considering adding another miniature poodle into the family and are talking about looking at the Sakura flowers in Japan next year... and I've just only finished unpacking. 

I am never leaving my home again. Well, I would like to think so except that we'll be flying off for Chinese New Year next month and we'll be in Thailand the month after that for a wedding. But OK, after that, I'm just gonna stay at home and not wear any pants for a while. 

Anyway, this week I'll be posting all about how you can have a fun trip to Melaka/Hong Kong with minimal cost, maximum gourmet experience and 5-star luxury living. I need to catch up on work, e-mails and other blogs now!

Also, here's a nicer picture of me at my bestie's wedding looking nice and proper. 

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