Wednesday, December 17, 2014

boys who hit girls suck

Last month, I literally tired myself out that I now have to eat Vitamin B and iron pills everyday to keep myself going. This is also the year where I hardly had time to blog and yet somehow you guys keep coming back to visit me - 14,000 readers per month! That's crazy! You guys are crazy!

So I am going to take a good look at my lifestyle and see if there's anyway that I can make blogging on a daily basis happen again.

In the meantime, I am writing at my iMac with a heavy heart tonight as I am literally watching my childhood friend's life fall apart and there is literally nothing I can do because she has shut us all out and pushed us away.

I cannot help thinking that while I am busy thinking about cute Korean boys, playing LINE pop and snuggling with my family; my friend who grew up in the EXACT SAME environment as I did, who had better emotional support and better job prospects and better education is literally putting herself through hell - all for a man she does not love and does not love her back.

OK, I know y'all are probably going, "This Pam is so drama" but the reality is that in one month, my friend might not be alive anymore as she is caught in a very abusive relationship. The kind that involves hospitals and police reports.

If you have any experience in dealing with this, please leave your advise in the comment because any effective help at this point will be great.

I think it would be nice that even if only one of you reads this, I hope you know that if you're happy at this moment, it's your decision.

If you're sad at this moment, it's your decision.

You make the choices in life that has lead you to this point in your life.

Choose humour. Choose to be happy. Choose to do the best for yourself. You have value, you know?

I wish everyone in this world could just be happy.

Thursday, November 27, 2014

Should I quit my job?

I am slowly learning to accept my quirks and eccentricities, especially when it comes to how serious I take my job and my responsibility in taking care of people I work with. Wewo says that no matter where I work, my own internal pressure will always spur me forward to overwork myself because I can't help it - I can't help pushing boundaries and asking for more.

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I used to think that I was wrong, and that I always take things just a little bit too seriously.

But now I think that it's alright to be this way. To demand a little bit more.  To always worry and be afraid, and then turn it into something beautiful.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Let these memories turn into songs

I just celebrated my anniversary last Friday. It's kind of a big deal because I've never been married for two years before.

Hubby Wewo asked me what I would do if he wasn't around (choy touch wood). Without skipping a beat, I told him that I would wait twenty years and then go out with Kim Jinhwan.

On a more personal note,

1. These days I like to listen to the 'Mix and Match' version of 'Eyes, Nose, Lips' on my drive home from work  
2. My hair is pink/red now but it's not the final colour so I'm not sure if I want to brag about it yet
3. My blood pressure is very low these days and no one can tell me how to bring it up
4. Maybe I should start with sleeping before 1am? 

OK I will go to bed now. Good night, iKON fans! 

Get ready? Sleeptime! 

Saturday, November 8, 2014

OK, bye Internet, off to work hard on winning at life again

CEO Yang’s Instructions

1. Before becoming a singer, become a human first.
- All of the trainees should greet anyone who is older than them including YG artists and staff with a 90 degree bow and loud voice.

2. YG can make a gem shine but doesn’t have the ability to make a stone shine.
- Will you be a gem or stone? This will only be possible through your blood and sweat of effort. Don’t forget that you’re trainees with only potential at the moment at 5 points [out of 100] and don’t forget to use one hour of practice to the fullest like it’s ten hours worth. At the end of the month, all of the trainees will be reviewed so always be on alert.
Those who are lacking in effort or potential will be sent home.

Source: Song Baek Kyung’s Facebook; Translated by Jane, from the awesome tumblr squinty chipmunk - who is also making me consider starting a Kim Jinhwan Malaysia Fan Club, like, seriously 


Changes in Pam's life so far

1. I really, really, really like Kim Jinhwan and iKON
2. I haven't been sleeping well - only 3-4 hours every night with many worries and ideas in my head
3. There's a lot of work to be done
4. Struggling to sleep early and wake up early
5. I am into ear rings and hip-hop these days
6. I know it's the 8th of November, still not sure if I should hop on Nanowrimo
7. My hair colour is going to change soon. I do not suit being just a brunette after all. 

Yes, I use everything in my life to motivate me to do better - even kPop. These days I have the feeling of wanting to act better, dress better and be more successful (so noona can continue to buy iKON's albums and songs on iTunes)- to be someone who will stand in front of Jinhwan and have him think, "Wow, this fan is cool."

These are the kinds of things that drive me to improve myself, which is kind of weird, considering that other people my age are thinking about supporting their family, succeeding for wealth and power, driving big cars, etc.

I think I am lucky to be sheltered and safe; I think that I have a lot of ways to improve still, and am still stuck at potential number 5 out of 100. Let's work hard! 

Thursday, November 6, 2014

Hello blog readers of Pam Writes a Blog! I am the #1 reason why Pam has been on a hiatus from writing. My name is Kim Jinhwan, born in 1994 and am about to debut as a member of the Best Group in the World - iKON (yes, we'll be even bigger than 2NE1 and Big Bang according to Pam, who says that she will still support her love for Park Bom forever and ever). 

Recently, Pam has been busy educating Wewo on all things iKON (first you need to go on YouTube and watch MNet's Who Is Next, followed by MNet's Mix and Match) and after two weeks of intensive training, Pam's Wewo is also now an iKON fan. Everyday, all they talk about is iKON. Pam likes Jinhwan (nickname:Jinan) and Wewo likes JunHwe (nickname:The Conqueror June). 

Please watch out for me and support me as much as Pam does! She says that when she is 70, she will travel to Korea and come date me as her boy toy. Let's be friends! 

Also, just in case you guys want to see what he's like performing:

Monday, October 27, 2014

Tired but I can't give up

You and me, 
We're under the same sky but we can't meet

Ladies and gentlemen, I am officially back on the k-Pop bandwagon and I think that I may have found someone to obsess over while my precious Park Bom takes a break from the cruel K-netizen world.

This is JinHwan and I do believe that his group iKon will be even bigger than Big Bang and 2NE1 *fan girling*. To understand the GIF, you need to go on YouTube and look for 'Who Is Next' and 'Mix & Match'. It's very addictive and filled with lots of pretty boys, but JinHwan is the best. :) HE IS PERFECT!!!

Feeling emo, feeling a little out of place. Who would have thought that watching young boys chase after their dream would trigger a panic in me - reminding me that I must live everyday rejecting a comfortable life, because only through hardwork and pain can you truly grow. And I want to grow! 

I bet my all, there is no next time. 

Monday, September 15, 2014

Am I proud to be a Malaysian?

The week after I returned from Sydney, I received three job offers - without actually applying for anything. I think that I kind of won at Life, with God's Almighty Grace. Between you and me, I am no different from anyone else- I'm just a regular kid with a regular job who likes to eat dessert and shop impulsively for pretty things. But... 

I am actually one of the few Malaysians who have nothing to complain about - I do not have any opinions on how our "future generations" are raised, what the corruption level is like and what our government officials are doing about our water levels and natural resources. I am way too busy having fun and creating fun projects at work to care about which politician said what, and I do believe that just earnestly working hard and living each day gratefully, fruitfully is what somehow brought me to this point in life. 

Erm, maybe I'm not saying it correctly - I do not condone being oblivious, but I do believe that playing an active role in changing your life, rather than waiting for the country to change it for you will make a difference in your quality of life. Malaysia might not be perfect, but she has given me lots of room to grow and be a better person.

I am grateful to be Malaysian and to have so many opportunities around me. Happy Malaysia Day!

Oh yeah. Also, my dip dye ombre hair finally faded out, so I'm a light brunette now:

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Alaskan Crab at Unique Seafood, PJ

If I had to re-do my already awesome garden wedding, I would seriously consider having it at Unique Seafood, PJ because the food they cook is just so darn delicious. For my birthday last year, Wewo treated me to fresh Australian lobster (which we'll get to eat again soon in honor of his cousin's wedding! Holla!) and this year, we celebrated my 30th with Alaskan Crabs instead. 

Live seafood, right before your very eyes! 

Can you spot our crab? We named him Bobby. 

He's going in! 

Wewo and Bobby 

We had Bobby prepared two ways - baked (no pic, too hungry) and cooked with superior stock. I actually didn't fancy the superior stock (sorry, Bobby!) but we ate everything anyway because that's what you do when Life gives you the opportunity to eat fresh Alaskan Crabs, kids. You just get in there and suck it all up - er, out. 

Paired Bobby the crab with some fried Kai Lan vegetables and we were filled to the brim. I remember having dinner pretty late the day we had Bobby the crab for lunch. 

Thank you for everything, Bobby! We ate you well! *deep bow of gratitude* 

Pam Writes is not a foodie blog, but it is a blog on life's walkthroughs. If you need to take your boss/client out and want to make a good impression or celebrate something really awesome, then you definitely need to head on over to Unique Seafood 23 and shell out a few hundred ringgit for some good seafood. 

The Alaskan Crab meal cost around RM600-700 in total. 
The Australian lobster meal cost around RM1000 in total. (highly recommended, can feed 4 pax minimum).
And if you park your car in front of the restaurant, there is a RM5 jockey fee.

Here's more info on the restaurant:

Restaurant Fresh Unique Seafood 23, 
PJ Lot 9B-3, Jalan Kemajuan,
Section 13, 46200 Petaling Jaya, Selangor.

Tel: +603. 7960 2088/2066
Mobile: 016-2104266
Business hours: 11.45am to 3.00pm 6.00pm to 10.30pm

Monday, August 18, 2014

How to Celebrate Your 30th Birthday (Energy Day Spa & Prego Italian Buffet)

Well, I guess the title basically says it all - but here are some more details on how Wewo orchestrated one of the most awesome birthdays that ever existed. 

Step One: Energy Day Spa, Jalan Ampang, KL 

This is me in the changing room - we need to change into robes and keep away all our valuables before the session. I had originally wanted to try the hot stones, but they only had one set and there were two of us - so we went for the normal tissue massage, which was so relaxing that we were vehemently promising each other that we should make this a monthly event. 

They serve you tea before and after your session. While the younger kids define "chilling out" as staying up late and drinking alcohol at some seedy area of KL city, I prefer a chill-out activity where you literally turn into a warm heap of laziness and comfort as you watch the KL traffic from above. 

For more info on Energy Day Spa, click here to view the website. You should book in advance and although it is expensive (our total bill come up to around RM500+), it is seriously pampering and lots of guys who went there expressed how their skin is now soft as silk. 

The only other time I've been here was the day before my wedding and it sure brings back sweet memories. :) 

 Step Two: Fill up with Italian food at Prego, The Westin KL 

Wewo then took me out for Italian fine dining-slash-buffet at Prego on a Sunday afternoon. I was pretty confused because I couldn't understand why the servings were so small --- but then by the middle of the meal, I was seriously stuffed. I really enjoyed myself a lot because the Italian food was very Italian (not fusion or with a Malaysian-twist) and they actually serve the food to you hot and fresh, in as much quantity as you like- which is definitely better than having to line up at a buffet line! Hoho~

Prego is surprisingly empty but that's probably because it's on a pricey side and is in a hotel? I highly recommend trying the Sunday Brunch buffet though, especially if you are a fan of Italian food. For more info, please click here and I honestly do not think any booking is necessary - when Wewo called to book, the guy on the other side of the line said that it was fully booked but you can try a walk-in. When we got there, the place was only half filled. I believe that the total meal cost around RM300 or slightly less, but it was so good that we did not have Italian food for months after that. 

So that was how we welcomed my sweet 30th - with a deep, cleansing detox massage and some hearty Italian food. We also visited the Royal Selangor factory (previous post) and took a day off work to have some fresh Alaskan Crab --- but that's a post for another day.

Saturday, August 16, 2014

Visit to Royal Selangor (and the School of Hard Knocks!)

Last year, we visited the National Museum for my birthday. This year, I discovered that we can actually visit the Royal Selangor factory in Malaysia - so of course I wanted to go! Visitors get to go in for free and they also throw in a free tour as well. 

I LOVE factories. You can take a girl out of an engineering career, but there is always that part of me who will be studying their process flow, ISO and QA standards. 

It's a factory, so of course you get to see some pretty cool stuff. I had no idea that the hammered texture on Royal Selangor products were actually handcrafted - so no pewter product is actually the same as the other. They are all unique! 

Wewo trying his hand at hammering pewter. It's hard because you need to hit the exact same spot twice. 

Soldering a pewter piece that will be used as a classy wine cooler. 

So this is where all those expensive-looking awards are made! 

Up next- School of hard knocks! To attend the session, you need to call in advance so there'll be a teacher waiting for you at the fixed time. Cost is RM60 per person but you get to keep everything - your artwork, a certificate AND the apron that you're wearing. 

Our friendly knocking master correcting Wewo's work... hahahaha... it turns out, I'm a better knocker than Wewo is. *girl pride* 

They'll ask you to sign in with your name at the beginning of the class, so be sure to write your proper name as they will print it out on an important looking piece of paper. We have ours stuck on the wall to remind us of what an awesome day it was. 

Tah dah! Our beautifully knocked pewter pieces that turned out to be bowls. 

Mine says "Made by Princess Pam", but of course. 

After the 30-45 minute session at School of Hard Knocks, we wandered around the merchandise section and for some reason, I really wanted to get Wewo a pewter mug to drink beer from. After that, we headed off to the open-space cafe for coffee and cake. 

Just chilling and trying not to listen in on the table next to us talk about digital marketing and how to drive more visitors to Royal Selangor. 

My very expensive gift to Wewo for taking me to Royal Selangor and actually booking us in for pewter knocking class - this mug was really expensive but I felt that it was the kind of thing that you get to use for the rest of your life. I think it was like RM300++. 

The staff at Royal Selangor were very surprised to see us there because not many locals know about this awesome place. I highly recommend visiting the factory at least once in your lifetime, although I will probably go again with my in-laws or when I have kids but it's also a great place to bring a date along (and *cough* entry is free *cough*).  It was really fun!

For more info on the opening hours and classes, please click here.

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