Friday, March 17, 2017

A day in my life with a 10 month old baby

This is the best blog post to read if you're hoping to know about a mom who is barely making it as a "good" parent, wife, housekeeper and business person! Even with just 3 of us and 2 poodles at home, it is a very busy household and despite all the planning, I never really know how the day may end (for example, I am in my PJs and blogging at 8PM on a Friday night, a highly unusual occurence as my MFT - Mommy Freedom Time - usually begins at 10PM+). 

My Work
I am a full time working and stay at home mom. By full time, I mean full time, this is not a 9am-5pm job. I am on call for clients and baby 24/7. But! I love it because being in the recruitment consultancy industry really is a big passion of mine because I get to help people improve their careers and take home salary and at the same time I also get to always be near my baby girl, who is growing up so amazingly fast. 

So let's begin!


I am up by 7am and am damn proud that baby can sleep through the alarm clock ringing. I make sure baby and husband are both still snuggly sleeping before tumbling out of bed, then I'm off to wash up and put on some lipstick! (Yes, I put on simple makeup even if I don't go out - proof that girls don't wear makeup to compete with other girls. It's just pretty to wear makeup! I highly recommed it as a pick-me-up for your day) 

Chores - I turn off night lights, open all windows to let fresh air in, greet the poodles a good morning and get started on breakfast. I also get the coffee machine started so the whole dining area will smell of freshly brewed coffee, my favourite! 

On Monday, I decided that we will have fresh strawberry cake for breakfast!

Some mornings I am more reasonable and cook a hot breakfast (usually with eggs) or like in the photo, I made sandwiches - bacon ham with cheddar cheese and mustard sauce.

If I'm really organised, I also get lunch cooking in the rice cooker or double boiler in the morning.

After breakfast, we bathe the baby.

I am now in charge of the baby while husband goes to work, but I also have leftover chores such as loading the washing machine and wiping down surfaces. So I let the poodles and baby play together for awhile. I also have my red date tea earlier in the day because I tend to get lazy and forget to drink it later on. I drink red date tea for breastmilk production! 

Baby J started playing on her own at 9 months+ and she's getting very good at it, she can sometimes last up to an hour just playing on her own.

Meanwhile, I'm 3 paces away working on my tiny IKEA table and occasionally making gurggling sounds at my baby girl while I work on client fulfillment.

I usually get hungry again at 10am so I have a second breakfast while getting my work done (and also have more coffee). These are my favourite egg tarts from TK Bakery, the shop I highly recommend for baby fullmoon gift packs. Depending on the quality of the fruits at the supermarket, I sometimes also have cut fruits like watermelon and rock melon for tea.  

By 11am, baby is ready for her morning nap.


Except, some days baby decides that she doesn't want a morning nap, in which case she will sit with me while I get lunch ready at 12pm+.

My little party animal will then pass out in her baby chair while watching her mom move around the kitchen as I cook - get the laundry - check on the poodles - prep dinner.

Hmm! I don't have any photos of lunch, but it's usually something quick like yee mee noodle soup, salad or onigiri. After lunch, baby plays around at the dry kitchen area while I wash up.

I have forcibly stopped myself from buying her anymore toys ever since I discovered that she is perfectly happy playing with tupperware and water. She also spent ten minutes playing with a washed grapefruit today! Tomorrow I will literally give her lemons. 

Once she's done playing with something new, we both go back up to her safe play area for independent playtime while mommy goes back to work. 

I am hungry by 2-3pm! So I have an early teatime while I get more work done. Are you guys interested in knowing how I do not gain weight even though I ate the whole strawberry cake by myself? Because I'm the only dessert fairy at home, I have been known to eat 8 pcs of krispy kreme donuts or finish the whole box of Hokkaido cheese tarts by myself without putting on weight. But having said that, I am not model skinny either, which is why I am unsure of whether or not I should teach you my no-exercise, no-diet, no-supplement method. (>_<) 

We then get back to work and by 4pm, baby is ready for her second nap. These days she likes hunting for the baby wipes and pulling out the wet tissue all over the bed; I usually let her pull out a few and then quietly keep the wipes away when she's distracted.


We have dinner at around 5pm because I like to keep ourselves free for mommy-daddy time after 6pm! To achieve this I usually prep dinner's ingredients ahead during lunch time. 

Lasagne is one of my favourites because you can do everything beforehand and just pop the lasagne into the oven to bake an hour before dinner.

I usually do fusion Western/Italian one day, then the next day I'll do something Chinese with steamed rice, kailan/broccoli and a meat dish.

I try to stuff us full so we don't get hungry at 10pm. Sometimes we have ice-cream to go with a hot beverage and then daddy watches baby while I go around doing house chores (vacuum, turning on the night lights, feeding the poodles, wiping down surfaces, boiling hot water, boiling my red date tea). 

Night time 

If we've been in the house the whole day, we end the day by taking baby out for a walk at the nearby playground outside for fresh air and new scenery. It's also time for me and hubby to sneakily date each other while we walk. When we get home, baby has her second bath before she's dressed in her PJs. 

At around 8-9pm baby is ready for bed.

Baby sleeps with style.

She's usually fussy during the first few hours of her sleep cycle so I hang around on the bed watching kdrama while baby sleeps. OMG I loved Goblin and Descendents of the Sun so much!

Because I heard Song Joong Ki wears a mask everyday, I also wear a facial mask for 20 minutes everyday while I lounge on the bed with baby. Aunty says my skin looks amazing, so it must work! There are also days when I'm too tired to do anything, let alone wear a mask. Sometimes my husband walks in to find me fast asleep next to baby and it's not even 10pm. (^_^); We have slept through the whole night while leaving all the lights and air-conditioning turned on in the whole house due to exhaustion! 

Sometimes we go out in the evenings and by the time we get home, baby is too exhausted to change into her PJs so we just let her sleep comfortably.

Some days even the baby car seat joins us in bed. I let it hang around our bedroom for a few days until we need to go somewhere with baby in the car.

Once baby is asleep - Mommy Freedom Time!

Hubby and I meet up to catch up on our day and review our weekly calendar on the board. Our days are filled with random meetings, lunches, dinners and family obligations so it's always good to have it up on a board to be discussed every night. 

I try to avoid catching up on work at this hour but if there is something urgent to catch up on, I do it quickly and accurately while nursing a cup of chinese tea! 

Otherwise I will be watching IFLIX/Netflix with hubby while folding laundry and snuggling up to the love of my life. Hubby will then inevitably fall asleep 10 minutes into the second episode of a TV show, I will wake him up and then we will all tuck into bed for the night.

The End

Friday, March 3, 2017

10 Steps: How to sell your car (second hand) in Malaysia

Our family is a one car household.

... which is pretty rare in Malaysia! When we married, we had two cars for three years but somehow because of our lifestyle, personality and sticky habits towards each other, we ended up only using one car (even when both of us switched jobs twice), we would still car pool to work together and for everything else, there was Uber, Grab Car and the good ol' tumpang a friend's car home for special occasions. 

My very first car ... I miss it sometimes! 

So this is a step-by-step on how we sold off our cars (because we wanted to upgrade our current car and because the other one was literally collecting dust, literally. I will always remember it costs RM200 to replace a car battery because that's how often we had to buy a new one just to restart the spare car every month or two). 

Note: I think normally you trade in your current car at the dealer if you're planning on getting a new car? But that wasn't an option for us as the car was in our parent's names. 

Step 1 - Prepare these 3 items- Car registration card, insurance policy and owner's thumb print. You need this trinity to sell your car in Malaysia. 

Step 2 - Take photos of your car and take note of the mileage to get an estimated market price.

You now have two options! If you would like the shortcut version, go to Step 6, otherwise read on - 

Step 3 - Log onto and input your car's details in the Search Filter on the left. You will now know the market price of your car. 

Step 4 - Choose your Dealer. Look for listings with this symbol to contact a Dealer. I used this backward method to find my car salesman because I wanted someone who sold my type of cars and who would give me a fair price for it. 

Step 5 - Choose lots of Dealers! I saved ten numbers into my phone and Whatsapp'd all of them the details of my car for a quotation. 

Step 6 - If you would like to skip the above steps, here's the number of the sales guy I sold my car to and I have to say he's pretty chill. Ricky's number is: +6011-18705692​⁠​. The company is pretty large and is located at Ampang. Do note that although I dealt with this company, they might not offer you the best price for your car, so it's always good to get 2-3 price offers

Step 7 - So now that you have your secondhand car dealer's number, it's time to talk to him! Here's the message I sent via Whatsapp - 

Step 8 - They will ask you for your asking price. If you have one, just let them know. I was upfront that I had no idea what the selling price was. This is why it's good to contact a couple of dealers - after getting 4-5 replies, I could talk to the best person with the best price.

** Note: at this point if you are extra cautious like us, you can consider driving to the car dealership's office first to see if the business is dodgy. In our case, we liked that the Performance Motor Trading's dealership was large and prosperous looking.

We even took photos of the dealership and sent it to our parents just in case we got conned into giving our cars away for free
Step 9 - You are almost done! Set an appointment to have the car appraised at the shop and bring along your documents listed in Step 1 and your extra car keys (if you still have them). If you are not the listed car owner in the registration card, bring the owner with you as well! 

Step 10 - You will be given a cheque for your car (do note that the cheque will only be made out to the name printed in the car's registration card). Cash your cheque in and treat yourself to a nice cup of coffee.  

Enjoy going home to an empty car lot, that's one less thing you need to be responsible for! 



This is a non-sponsored post, I am not affiliated with or Performance Motor Trading. 

This post was created to help people like us who had no idea how to go about selling a car that was handed down to us from our parents.  Hope it'll be useful to you! :) 

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